Everyone tells you not to worry about your wedding being perfect, to let go of the details, enjoy, and remember the point of it all. We went into our wedding weekend so excited and so grateful to have family and friends near that I don’t think anything could have brought us down. As bullet-proof as we already were for anything to go wrong, our wedding day still ended up being perfect, to the point where I’m having a hard time believing that it happened.
I’m still in a daze, wondering how it all went by so fast, and how so many months of planning and anticipation and painfully tremendous excitement boiled down to the happiest and most beautiful hours of my life that felt minutes long and then POOF, it’s over. It’s cruel!! On the flip side we can say that’s what makes it all so good and that this is just the start of even better times and years to come, but I wish so much that we could’ve stayed in those moments longer. I imagine this is what the photos and video will help us do (can’t wait for those!!)
Friends have asked what my favorite part of the day was and it’s hard to choose. The general feeling of being loved and supported by our community of family and friends stands out a lot. I felt it the moment I started walking down the aisle and it brought me to tears, much sooner than I had anticipated them to come. I braved my ugly crying face through the vows as well, and even after the ceremony when O and I retreated to the bridal suite I sat there crying, still processing all the emotions from the ceremony while shoving the cocktail hour food in my mouth. Also one of my faux eyelash strips came loose like a hangnail from all the tears, NBD- I packed eyelash glue knowing this would happen.
The rest of the night went by even faster. Soon it was dinner, then my dad was saying “That’s it? So short,” when our father daughter dance ended, then we were pleading with the bartender to keep the bar open after last call ended, then I was eating a bratwurst and fries at a place that had crayons to draw on the tables and somehow got crayon all over the elbow of my dress lol, then I was telling our Uber driver that we just got married and he was like “What?!?” and I was like “Yea look at me I’m wearing a wedding dress!” then we woke up the next morning and I asked O did that all really happen? Was I there??
The feelings still remain- I’m deeply grateful for everyone who helped make our day so perfect, for the outpouring of love from people who’ve been an important part of our story, and I’m madly in love with my husband. What an amazing thing to have experienced the culmination of our lives in one gorgeous day with our favorite people.
I meant to share a final wedding update before the big day but vastly underestimated how crazy everything would get during the month leading up to it and took a break from the blog, and then we honeymooned in Maui which I would like to do every year WOW is it pretty there. And as much as we did have fun planning our wedding, I’d be fine to never think about it again haha. I’ll share more details once the photos are ready, including a couple DIYs we did + sources, and to generally share more about my favorite day if ya don’t mind. This might be a while since I plan on submitting the photos to a wedding publication first not only because I think it would be cool, but mostly because I want to spread love for my awesome vendors. Over-gramming peeks will be irresistible and likely.
Some things I would’ve shared in that final wedding update:
I ended up going the DIY route for more than I had initially planned for (I planned for zero) and while I wholeheartedly support that time is definitely money and if it’s within budget to get someone else to do it then absolutely do, I’m so so happy with how everything turned out and it felt really good personally carrying out what I envisioned- ya know, that addictive pride you get when you DIY. That said, it would get stressful doing things like staying up late cutting menus and place cards and you reeaaaallly gotta love doing that stuff or have a ton of help if you don’t want to risk a nervous breakdown.
Picking up my wedding dress was an unexpectedly teary-eyed moment. In that last fitting, I finally got to see it formed to my body and I felt gorgeous. On a more personal note, I felt proud of my body, which has never come naturally to me. I worked extra hard for over a year now to improve my health and fitness and am finally seeing it start to pay off. I got emotional thinking about how O would see me in that dress and feel proud of me too. And now that the wedding has passed I can confirm that I indeed felt more beautiful than ever that day.
Side note: the dress is super dirty now and the bustle ripped and I’m not sure what to do with it. Clean and preserve it because I have a hard time letting go of sentimental things?? Past brides, what did you do with your dress?
Picking up our marriage license was another exciting moment. We went to city hall together where for the first time I saw my new last name in writing (WEIRD AND COOL) then we spent about 5 minutes outside trying to take a boomerang of us holding the envelope. Boomerang successful. Honestly though, I’m kind of dreading changing my name merely for how much of a pain it seems like it is. Is it so bad? Should I not put it off for long or meh, take my time?
I’m glad we waited to get married. O and I have a life long history of knowing each other, including a decade of being in a relationship. In all that time, I got to know him the most in the past couple years of living together. It was a time that we grew most as a couple, and it solidified that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. Everyone’s timing is different, and ours took longer than what I had written in my book of plans, but looking back now I wouldn’t change it. We know ourselves and each other far better now than we did only two years ago and I see how valuable that is.
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